29-year-old boyfriend tells 24-year-old girlfriend she looks like she's 4 months pregnant, freaks out when she retorts that he looks 8 months pregnant: 'He said he will starve himself for 2 weeks now because of that comment'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Oct 26, 2024 6:00 PM EDT

It's widely believed that you shouldn't dish what you can't take. That doesn't apply to lactose intolerant folks serving a cheesy meal to their loved ones, but rather for jokes and playful insults. If you're going to have an edgy sense of humor that casts aside political correctness, you shouldn't be crying when someone throws back the same level of offensiveness your way. It's one thing to be insulted by an out-of-pocket comment that seemingly comes out of nowhere, but if you started the roasts, you shouldn't be the one left crying at the end of them.

The boyfriend in this story cannot take what he dishes and never learned that he should never tell a woman she looks pregnant. Assuming a woman is pregnant in a neutral way can be a recipe for disaster, but telling your partner that they look pregnant as a joking insult is a surefire way to get insulted right back. 

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    AITAH for repeating back what he said to me.
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    AITAH, me(24 F) and my boyfriend (29 M)were sat on the sofa when I mentioned how bloated I am (I just ate a huge serving of pasta) he turns and says "you look 4 months pregnant" to which I said in return "yeah well you look 8 months pregnant" He's taken massive offence to my reply back stating because I'm not actually fat and that he was joking his comment was ok however because he is on the larger side and struggles with his weight I shouldn't have said that.
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    I replied back saying he shouldn't have said that in the first place then and to take it as you will. He said that theres things you shouldn't joke about if the other person is self conscious about. So I replied back saying if he's so self conscious about his weight then he shouldn't be joking about other people's weight regardless of if they're self conscious about it or not. He said he will starve himself for 2 weeks now because of that comment. He's stormed off and shut himself in the bedroom
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    ReviewOk929 • 16h ago · there's things you shouldn't joke about if the other person is self conscious about NTA - not nice to joke about peoples weight and you hurt when someone does it back at you. can't act
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    boxesofboxes Do not dish if you can't take.
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    Tachibana_13 Also why does his 'self consciousness' matter, and not the possible insecurities of person he supposedly loves?
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    taytayjewel Do unto others as you would have done to you— NTA
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    JJisafox NTA. It was clearly said in a joking manner, he way overreacted. It's not like you guys were in a heated argument and you mentioned his weight to hurt his feelings. Yall were being silly and even if he was sensitive about it, he should've just taken it because it was innocent.
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    stringbeagle Are you sure it was innocent? I read it that it bothered her so she struck back in a way that she knew would hurt him.
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    Crabtree512 Then he probably should have kept his mouth shut.
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    fuckyou2579 OP never really implies it bothered her, to me it's just like a continuation of banter. Like if my friend said I'm short, I'd call her short right back
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    kymrlll If you really want to someone off a sure way of doing it is to repeat back what they say. When people say mean things, they always say the things that bother them about themselves, whether they realize it or not. Otherwise, they wouldn't think it. It works every time. And they almost never realize that you're repeating them.
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    WarmAuntieHugs This reminds me of when I was a kid and my dad was trying to embarrass me and made a comment like awww our little girl is getting her boobies. I clapped right back and said something like It looks like you're getting yours too. It hurt his feelings really badly and I had to apologize. I didn't get why he could comment on my body and I couldn't on his. Even at 9 I thought it was bulls
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    Wandering_aimlessly9 My dad had a gun pulled on him over this. Picture it: Christmas when I was a kid. Dad weighs in at probably around 300 pounds. Uncle weighs in at probably 400. Uncle makes a fat joke to my dad. Dad makes a fat joke to my uncle. Uncle pulls a gun. I was still brought around my uncle and told to be nice. They wonder why we don't trust them with our kids. lol.
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    Sensitive Ad2681 NTA. How sure are you that this is a grown man? Because I'm not convinced.
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    Whatever-and-breathe ESH. Ok you are bloated, and your tummy may look slightly bigger. He made a joke which you didn't like and I get you were not feeling great (by the way 4 months would only be small bump, sometimes you can barely notice). He should not have made the joke. However, here is the thing, being bloated is temporary, food/gas whatever, in a few hours to next day it will be gone. You will be back to normal, nothing to see.
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    What make you a AH, is that instead of communicating to him that actually you don't really like the joke, you made a similar joke knowing full well that his situation is not temporary, he is very self conscious about it (and has probably being picked on for it), and you make the joke even worse by saying 8 months which is massive difference, and clearly means huge, not cute little bump. Tomorrow his weight will still be here and every time he looks in the mirror, he will remember that his girlfr
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    So yeah in my opinion both of you have something to learn here when it comes to communication, both are AH moves. If he was making constantly remarks about your body and you snap that is one thing, but here I think there was no trying to put you down. For him, it seems that it was meant as an innocent banter between a couple, however you did it deliberately to hurt him. There are better way to communicate, again I am not saying that what he did is right, but him being wrong, does not make you ri
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    Calm_Pomegranate297 OP Thank you all for your opinions I appreciate honesty no matter how harsh the critic! To answer a few questions: I suffer with IBS and because of it I constantly have a bloated belly regardless of what I eat and it causes me pain/discomfort. So yes I am skinny but I have a belly all of the time because of it. (Yes boyfriend knows this and knows I'm not the happiest with said bloated belly) As a lot of you have said; no this isn't the first time something like this has happe
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